You’ve been lied to.
You can’t have it all. Sorry, it’s just not possible.
Anyone who tells you otherwise is either trying to butter you up for a sale, or they’re dangerously delusional.
The brutal truth is that there are some things that can’t be done. Life is about making hard choices. Those choices are what define who we become, but “self esteem experts” don’t want to tell you that. They want you to think that you can have a miracle. They want you to think that a list of affirmations, and a positive attitude can get you everything that you want in life.
And that might be true… if you want a very specific list of compatible things.
Otherwise, it’s about critical decision making. The root of the word “decide” means “to cut off.” It comes from the same root as the word “incision.”
When you make a decision, you cut off the other possibilities–or you run the risk of developing the kinds of magical thinking that will have you believing in every infomercial miracle cure.
Unfortunately, most people don’t understand the way that human brains make decisions–and so their choices are led by circumstances and advertising, rather than true conscious thought. Or they try to hold onto two incompatible ideas. We call that “cognitive dissonance.”
Want to see what I’m talking about? This collection of TED talks provides an eye-opening look at how we make choices. Here’s one to get you started:
So how do you decide?
What path do you take? That, my friend, is up to you. And if you’d like some help along the way? Some support in creating your best self and your best life?
That’s what I do. I’m on a quest to provide the tools, skills, motivation, and accountability you need so that you can choose to create a life that you love, and that supports your community and the world.
What hard choices have you recently made? Is there a choice that you’re stuck on, right now? Let me know in the comments below!
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